April 17, 2017

I Love Me

Posted in Ponderer's Box at 4:54 pm by వసుంధర

Many think that they love themselves. It is true only if they love to have themselves for company. If you are boring to you, how you are not boring to someone else?

Here is something to support this view point.

Apr 16 2017 : The Times of India (Hyderabad)

o-zone – Face your boredom; it’s there for a reason

Vinitadawra Nangia

boredom toi

Constant dependence on external stimuli for entertainment weakens our inner resources to devise engagement
Back when we were kids, we were never al lowed to say, “I’m bored!“ My father could not accept that in a house he had stocked with all kinds of books, encyclopaedias, good music, and sparkling conversations, aimed at burnishing his children’s minds ­ anyone could find the opportunity to be bored. Indeed, he took our boredom as an affront to his creativity.Dad’s argument was that saying you are bored was like admitting that you are no good for your own amusement and edification ­ what good then could you be for anyone else? This was, of course, a time when TV just beamed a few evening hours of serious educative stuff, and things like cellphones, laptops, video players, CDs, tablets or Kindles, were unheard, undreamt of. What you did with your time was not dictated by the availability or lack of gizmos. Intellectual curiosity, romantic imagination and creative ideas kept the sparkle alive.

The only adrenaline rush youngsters craved came from playing in the park or chasing each other. A bicycle ride around the colony was adventure enough and a fast twirl before you lay down on grass to allow the world to rock and tilt was exciting. It was not unknown to just lie down and stare at the ceiling ­ that was when your thoughts flowed.

In the electronic age, time is soaked up by the gizmos at hand, and innui relieved by jumping from one screen to the next. Nobody allows themselves time to get bored. And that is a problem. Ease of stimulation has left us incapable of exploring our own selves or to allow the mind to just be, to drift in and out of deliberate thought. This stifles creativity and a deeper, philosophical exploration essential to existence. Constant dependence on external stimuli for entertainment weakens our inner resources to devise engagement.

Boredom is not an enemy; it is your means to discover your own strengths, instigate new thoughts, and replace tedious routines with new things. But because we do not allow ourselves time to indulge, it’s becoming a scarier proposition, one that people cannot imagine dealing with. Boredom is a call for drawing upon your internal resources and meeting your own self. It is when we stand naked in front of ourselves ­ with nothing in between. That is when you see yourself as you are.

We have to learn to be comfortable in that state.Face it. Feel it. Let it sink in. Absorb it. Let it suffuse your being. In short, look boredom in the eye, understand where it comes from and see how you can use it creatively to move on to something better.Think. Are you bored because you do not enjoy your work? Or is it because you do not feel in control of your life? Is your boredom a signal that you need to think through your life and make certain adjustments and changes?
In the TV crime drama Dexter, the forensics expertserial vigilante killer Dexter says very telling ly at one point, “I’ve always maintained that the greatest obstacle in life isn’t danger; it’s boredom.The battle against it is responsible for most of the events across the world ­ good or ill.“

Indeed, for those of us who do not have the inner resources to engage us in a positive manner, there is the danger of moving to destructive means.We all know at least a few people who spend too much time indulging in mental games and getting their kicks out of playing with other people’s minds.Such an indulgence sickens the mind and makes one obsessive.

And then there are those who push the limits of their physical prowess beyond the feasible. Overstimulated by gizmos and unable to face boredom, they jump from one adrenaline-pumping adventure to another and stretch their limits to see how far they can go ­ from drugs to sex to crime to rash driving or worse.

Our best bet then is to at times sink in to boredom and from that state, let the mind wander asking questions, seeking answers in its quest to find our own unique creative solutions.

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